You ever have anyone say to you, "Wow! You can do it All! You are a Superwoman!"? I hear that way too often. Don't get me wrong, this is not a post to boast about myself, quite the contrary. I may look like I've got it together, but to tell you the truth, I'm exhausted. I'm tired of always being so organized, but if I'm not organized my head will explode because things are out of order. I'm tired of making food from scratch everyday, but if I don't my family will die because of the terrible chemicals that reek havoc on our bodies from the scary preservatives in boxed foods. I'm absolutely over being on the church board and music leader and communications director of the church, but I'm afraid if I'm not, who will take those positions?
Do you see? I'm not perfect, I'm bloody overwhelmed. Even now as I'm typing this out, my toddler is screaming his head off because he wants to constantly be on my boob and I told him "no". And frankly, I don't feel like picking him up to make him feel better, but I will.
Some days I don't feel like a good mom, other days I feel like I can take on the world. Today I felt like I accomplished nothing. I dropped the first born off at school, the second one decided today was the day he wasn't going to nap after the school drop off. I literally looked up at the clock and it was already 3pm almost time to sit in the all-dreaded carpool line. What did I get done today? As I reflected on that question I was surprised at my own answer: I spent time with my son. We played games, we danced around the house, we learned about the letter "b" and number "2". We learned about "on and off" with the light switch. I got to stock up on the potential hurricane Irma with my husband. I got to FaceTime with my mom and sister. And I had a homemade sit-down dinner with my awesome kids.
So even though I didn't do EVERYTHING I wanted to do, I got to spend time with the people I hold most dear. The people who make my world go 'round.
Sometimes feeling the need to be perfect can really wear down a mom. We tend to be our harshest critics, not to mention all the mom-shamers out there. I'm here to tell you, it's ok to be a little messy, it's alright to give your kid a French fry, the transfat from it won't kill him instantly. As long as we are with our families and making memories, teaching our children life lessons, giving them the wisdom we have acquired over the years. That's what makes you a superwoman. Loving your family unconditionally, even though you may not like them at moments...(believe me, it happens). Keeping your kids safe and happy and making them know that they are loved are some of the most important things we can do as mothers.
So stop comparing yourself to the mom who seems to have it all together and you look like you haven't gotten to your laundry in over two weeks. You'll get there, just get through today and worry about tomorrow another day. You got this mama! You are amazing! And I mean that with every fiber of my being. You are loved and appreciated.